I saw this quote yesterday and fell in love with it! I don’t want this post to come across as really patronizing, I just want y’all to be happy 😀
I am a big believer that for most of us, our dreams don’t just fall into our laps and we have to work hard for them! I don’t think this is a bad thing, especially for those of us who are motivated and ambitious, it is great to have a goal to aim for and we feel a massive sense of accomplishment once we have achieved them! I mean who wants an easy life all of the time!
I love this quote so much because so many people ask me day in day out how I am such a confident and happy person. The one thing I find in common with these people is that they all feel a victim to life. They may not be happy in say their jobs but they get stuck in a rut and time just passes them by. I ask them if they have thought about the kind of job they would like to do and everything seems impossible to them and some haven’t even attempted to search for a new job. I want to tell them don’t sleep walk through life! Life is too short to do something every day that you don’t enjoy!
When I ask them why they are like this, they seem to think it’s normal because everyone around them feels the same! I really feel that if everyone started believing in themselves as their own fairy god mother, they would take control of their life and make changes before the changes are shoved on them or they would stop waiting for something to fall into their lap to make them happy. Obviously people have busy lives with jobs and families but I feel the main thing that stops people from following their dreams is fear of failure! It’s not easy to take risks but if you make a sensible plan it will pay off!
Not only is it the fear of failure, I think we live in a society nowadays where we are constantly told to “stay positive” and “look on the bright side of life”. While I massively believe it is better to be a optimistic person, I feel lots of people nowadays shut away their emotions and feelings in order to stay positive and I think this impacts people following their dreams, because how many people actually know what their real dreams are if they never think about them or how they can accomplish them? People need to look at their lives and understand what’s working and what’s not in order to improve.
It’s ok to not be happy with what you have and want to change it! That doesn’t mean you are a negative person or that you are ungrateful, it just means you want to better yourself.
Nobody really wants to admit what it is that needs to change. I always get asked if I think going to University for 4 years was a waste of my time as I now don’t work in a field related to my degree. I completely disagree that it was a mistake, at the time I was following my dreams and I was absolutely 100% happy to do so, I learnt amazing skills that are transferable into all areas of my life, I had awesome experiences like living abroad for a year but most of all I met life long friends with whom I made unforgettable memories. I landed a graduate job soon after Uni but it’s important to realise that dreams can change and I wanted to keep chasing mine!
I think most people who are striving to improve their health and fitness are also pretty focused in other areas of their lives too, I say this to people who ask me for help with their weight, that not only will good nutrition and exercise help you to feel amazing, once you start seeing results and reaching mini goals, you will want to create goals for all aspects of your life, whether it be your career or relationships too.
One last point, I saw one of the TTT boys write a facebook status along the lines of you don’t want to be your 80 year self talking to your grandchildren and telling them all the things you could have been if you had followed your dreams, you want to tell them all the things you have achieved! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Mum_KZq4cA&list=UUPOwfkA3v1CuqUvt8L–G6Q&feature=c4-overview
Be brave and be happy 😀